Monday, January 16, 2006
I debated with myself for quite a while before deciding to write this post. I am going to write about my date with Feli.
At first I wanted to wait and see whether she would write about it or not, and how long it would be, before writing about it myself. Because I don't want to appear to be too "excited" about it, or make it seem as if I see the date as of higher "importance" than she did. Finally, I decided - heck it. I was excited about the date. It was important to me. So I am going to write about it, for as long as I like it to be.
Feli: You watched ElizabethTown already? (probably in response to my msn nick)
cK: No, but I intend to!
Feli: Me too!
cK: Great! Watch with me!
Feli: Haha.. is that like a request?
cK: No.. it's more like asking you out for a date..haha
Feli: HAHA
Feli: You want to date me must PAY leh... haha..
(The above conversation is not exact, as my office msn does not keep message history)
Anyway, she paid me back in the end =)
To me, a friendship with somebody, boy or girl, is incomplete if you've never went out with him or her. Alone, one-on-one date, I mean. Because it's different when going out with a larger group of friends. It's not too difficult to notice that as the group gets larger, people's behavior gets weirder. Especially for guys, I think. Guys alone and guys in a group act quite differently.
Going out in a big group is the easy way out. But one-on-one dates are different. They are intimate. You can't run away when you run out of things to say. The security in numbers is missing. The whole thing is more real. And in the end you'll feel like you've known the person better.
But, back to the date.
I went down early to buy tickets. Then I did my usual - bought a book at Kino, and read at TCC while sipping coffee. She brought my birthday present along! They were nice slippers, and fit quite comfortably. Mega thanks, Feli!
Anyway, ElizabethTown was pretty so-so. It got a bit confusing at some parts, and there wasn't really a solid plot line throughout the whole show, but it was pretty solid acting. The romantic parts were there (the overnight call, the meeting in the middle to watch sunrise, the road-map), the funny bits were there (the suicide bike, the screaming kids), and it was longer than I expected (a solid 2 hours, I think). And the soundtrack was pretty good. 3.5 stars.
After exiting the cinema, and after the whole post-movie ritual (a.k.a the toilet trip), came the inevitable, non-spoken question: what's next? This, I think, is the most telling part of the date. Watching a movie together is easy enough, but what happens next is a true test of the relationship.
We went to Hereen to buy my Levi's jeans, but it was too crowded, so we went Taka instead. I finally bought my jeans there. It was sort of a weird reversal of roles, me the guy shopping and she the girl watching and holding my plastic bags (my book and my slippers) for me. The denim cost me $99.50, which my sister is suppose to pay for. Currently she's still ignoring the receipt nonchalently. Grrr..
So the rest of the day was spent walking here and there, looking at stuff and chatting. It was quite nice, and she's very easy-going. I sent her home and she didn't protest violently. I like that. I think it's only right to send your date home if it's late, say 10+. And the girl should just accept it nicely and not make a fuss about it. Guys, you don't have to be her boyfriend to send her home, you know. And girls, just because the guy send you home doesn't necessarily mean he's having designs on you. That said, I generally only send people home if I went out with them alone, or small group of close friends. In a large group, I don't, and I'm ashamed to say that it's because I want to avoid all the "woooo they are together because he sent her home" rumours.
Thanks for a great day Feli =)
Now, who wants to watch Memoirs of a Geisha with me? =D
{/4:35 PM}
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